THE "PAUSE" BLOG
"The key to success is being self-disciplined. The key to being self-disciplined is managing our thoughts."
In today's course, we will explore how not to be ordinary.
Repetition brings about knowing.
Do you think you're special?
How to be extraordinary.
One is the magic number.
“The primary purpose of this course is to teach us how to move from being ordinary to being extraordinary.”
Repetition brings about knowing.
In the last course, I wrote that happiness comes about by solving problems or, better said, by eliminating the obstacles that thwart your journey to being a better “you.”
I also wrote about simplifying what you care about. And that simplification came about by caring for one "greater value" within each of the four strands of life.
Us (Your spouse, family, and closest friends)
Them (Co-workers, Church, Service Club)
Him (God, All)
I also wrote about how I rank my four values and that these rankings can change depending on where I am in my life.
At this point in my life, I value the "Us Strand" the most.
Below are my values within each of my four strands. They intertwine like the Four Strands of HOPE.
What I value the most today is my marriage within the “Us” Strand.
Next comes the “Me” Strand, where I value longevity. I wish to dance at my grandchildren's weddings. I have six grandchildren, and they are six years old or younger. I’ll have to be in my nineties to accomplish this goal.
Next comes my clients, who sit in the “Them” Strand. Every day, I communicate with “Them,” working on optimizing their hormones, weight, health, and minds.
Lastly comes “Him.” I will influence as many people as possible through my writings. I will teach what I have learned after forty-three years of life optimization practice and helping tens of thousands succeed to be a better version of themselves.
I know some of you just gasped because I placed God on the bottom of my Four Strands. Recall that all four are intertwined. I work on all four of my "Greater Values" daily. There will be times when one rises above the other, and all is good as long as they are all intertwined.
I also wrote in the last course that you should focus most of your attention, if not all, on what you value most within the four strands. Do not waste attention to the wrinkles on your lips, the gossip that co-workers spew, or your neighbor’s lawn.
“Take your four values and raise them high above your head because that’s where they belong, and don’t let anything or anyone try to knock them down. Allow the lesser values to winnow away, like chaff from wheat on a windy day.”
Do you think you're special?
‘But, Doc, I’m not like other people. My problems are larger than theirs.’
“Then, you must be the Chosen One.”
I’m being snide, of course.
Clients will tell me often that their situation is special. That’s their ego talking. They are either being condescending to themselves or others.
“Nearly all of us are ordinary.”
Thinking that you or your situation is special will make your problems and obstacles more difficult to solve and even unsolvable. It's our thinking that makes obstacles large and problems unsolvable.
We all have problems. All problems have solutions.
Your problem, my problem, and their problem are no different from the next one, and if you believe yours is, you will most likely fail at solving it.
When a person looks at a problem and tries to measure it, it becomes bigger than it really is. An obstacle is an obstacle, and you are the one that makes it larger than it should be. The key is to make it small and come up with a solution.
“What makes a problem difficult is ruminating about the problem and not taking action to solve the problem.”
“We all have the same problem-solving potential, and solving problems makes and keeps us happy, so if you're happy, you're solving problems..”
One of the most important steps I have taken in my life is to understand that my problems are not special. I am part of a group called humans; I am ordinary, just like the rest of us.
With that said, a very small percentage of people rise like cream to the top. I want to be part of the cream. How about you?
How To BE Extraordinary
Most of us want to stand out from the rest, but only a rare few achieve that special state.
In my childhood neighborhood, I was surrounded by outstanding athletes. We loved to play baseball and football. We all wanted to be special. We all wanted to be professional athletes.
“Fewer than 2 percent of NCAA student-athletes go on to be professional athletes.”
That’s two percent of those who already reached a very high level.
How do we become extraordinary instead of ordinary?
First, you must ask yourself why you want to be extraordinary.
"I want to Have an extraordinary marriage because, at my age and my situation, I spend all my time with my wife. Since we spend nearly all our time together, I want that time to be filled with bliss. Bliss is defined by the dictionary as perfect happiness."
How can my marriage be extraordinary?
By simplifying and isolating my value of Having a blissful marriage and focusing my attention on improving my marriage.
Think about it. What if your "Greatest Value" was your health? You need to focus your attention on improving your health. All of it!
We don’t become extraordinary by spending our energy on lesser values.
That’s where simplification comes into play. If you want to be extraordinary, you must optimize your potential to be a…
Better spouse, parent, sibling, son, daughter, and friend.
Better group member, coworker, boss, service club, or church member.
Better member to All, a better follower of God.
If you want to achieve awesome health, you must become exceptional at fueling your body and taking the right actions. You have to better your health every day. You must spend your ten thousand hours of practice fine-tuning your body.
If you want to achieve an awesome marriage, you must become exceptional at fueling your marriage and taking the right actions. You have to better your marriage every day. You must spend your ten thousand hours of practice fine-tuning your marriage.
If you want to be an awesome member or leader of your group, you must become exceptional at fueling your group and taking the right actions. You have to better your group every day. You must spend your ten thousand hours of practice fine-tuning your membership and leadership abilities.
If you want to be pious, you must become exceptional at fueling All and taking the right actions. You have to better your piousness every day. You must spend your ten thousand hours of practice being pious.
"Based on research suggesting that practice is the essence of genius, best-selling author Malcolm Gladwell popularized the idea that 10,000 hours of appropriately guided practice was “the magic number of greatness,” regardless of a person’s natural aptitude. With enough practice, he claimed in his book Outliers, anyone could achieve a level of proficiency that would rival that of a professional. It was just a matter of putting in the time."
ONE IS THE MAGIC NUMBER
How many of you remember Curly? He was a character played by Jack Palance in the 1991 movie City Slickers with Billy Crystal. Can you believe it has been that long ago? You may remember that Palance won the Oscar for his role, and when he accepted it, he did one-armed push-ups on the stage at the age of 73.
Anyways…I’ll never forget the scene when Billy Cristal’s character asks…
“Curly, what is life all about?”
Holding one bony, crooked finger in the air, Curly replied.
“It’s that one thing!”
When Crystal asked Curly what that one thing was, he replied:
“That’s what you have to figure out for yourself.”
To be happy in life, choose one thing at a time and work on it, and remember to fall in love with the struggle that it takes to perfect that one thing.
I read an interview with the Williams sisters, possibly the greatest tennis players ever, and the interviewer was trying to make their father look like a tyrant because he would make them practice every day at the crack of dawn. The story was made into a movie called King Richard, which won Will Smith an infamous Oscar. Serena told the interviewer that Dad didn't make us, we wanted to practice, and we wanted to practice if it was raining or sunny.
The William sisters loved the struggle it took to be extraordinary.
If you are probably like me and want to be more rounded, choose one thing within each of the Four Strands of Life that will improve upon it and work every day to master that one thing.
“If we practice laser-like for ten thousand hours and love the struggle that comes with it, we can be extraordinary."
Every day, we must eat, so that makes practicing healthy eating easy to accomplish to be extraordinary at it.
Every day, we must be a spouse, parent, child, sibling, or friend; therefore, no excuses.
The same goes for being a co-worker, church member, or service club member.
Ane we are always, every minute, a child of God, so get to know Him and be pious.
Think about it: if we were all extraordinary, there would be no extraordinary.
“Strive to be extraordinary every day, even every hour, within what you value most.”
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THIS WEEK’S US-IE
St. Petersburg Florida
We were in St. Petersburg, Florida, last week, hanging out with our oldest son and our three oldest grandchildren. Here I am, talking about my favorite music group with my oldest grandson. I will dance to one of their songs at his wedding.
Nothing is better for your hormones than the bliss your grandchildren give you.
"IT'S ALL ABOUT YOUR HORMONES!"
"Because when your hormones are balanced, your weight, health, and mind will follow."
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