THE ENLIGHTENMENT STRAND
"It’s hard to grow when you think you know all you need to know."
Do you know someone that has to be right all the time?
I do, and when I show her that she is mistaken, she will twist it into nonsense to prove she was right or somehow not admit she was wrong.
"I have observed that people who have to be right all the time are stagnant. They are stuck where they are, and being in the same place is, in reality, falling further behind because she misses improving on who she is."
Think about it. If you know everything, why do you need to learn?
I run into this quite often during initial consults. I explained to these possible future clients that once they are in their “pauses,” the best way to lose excess weight is to play the insulin glucagon seesaw game.
I then tell them they cannot do any strenuous exercise while on the program.
I can hear their aghast.
They say, You’ve got to exercise. You can only lose weight by burning more calories than you consume. It’s all about calories in and calories out.
The crazy thing is that they are consulting with me because they can’t lose weight no matter what they do. They’ve tried dieting, joined a gym, and even hired a personal trainer, and they weigh more now than when they started.
Do you know how many women and men I talk to that successfully exercise their weight off after they are in their pauses?
Take a guess.
Oh, and by the way, I talk to dozens of “paused” women and men every week and have done so for over a decade.
NONE!
Not one of the women or men I talk to tells me they successfully lost weight by exercising.
I am not saying I am right. I am not saying that they are wrong.
"I am saying that none of the women and men I have talked to over the last decade had told me that exercise worked for them when it came to losing weight."
As I go through the consult with someone who is always right, I ask her, How often do you work out? She tells me three times a week. I next ask, How long have you been doing that? She tells me, For years.
Then I ask her, How much weight have you lost? She says That doesn’t matter; you have to burn more calories than you take in; therefore, exercise is the only way to burn more calories unless you want to starve yourself.
The truth is that once you enter your pauses, your ovaries or gonads no longer make any fat-burning hormones (women) or enough fat-burning hormones (men).
“You can’t burn fat by exercising it off without fat-burning hormones.”
Okay, this course isn’t about losing weight. The conversation above is just an example of how people who are always right stunt their growth.
I have also found that the always right person is filled with Fixed Ideas.
Fixed Idea - an idea…persistently maintained and not subject to change.
“Fixed ideas narrow the mind.”
DOUBT
"The key to broadening the mind is to doubt."
Doubt opens the door to truth, knowledge, and betterment.
Why?
Because we grow when we realize we are wrong and don’t know something.
When does someone change from eating unhealthy foods to eating healthy foods?
When they realize the way they eat is wrong.
For example, if someone’s bloodwork shows that she has high cholesterol. They say to themselves, maybe I am not invincible, and my eating habits are affecting my health adversely and lessening the length of my life.
The high cholesterol is a wake-up call. And the statins your doctor prescribes scare you, especially when you look at the side effects.
“Side effects can vary between different statins, but common side effects include Headache, Dizziness, Feeling sick, Feeling unusually tired or physically weak. Digestive system problems like constipation, diarrhea, indigestion, farting, muscle pain.sleep problems, low blood platelet count. And more…"
(Can you believe that the NIH actually used the word farting?)
“When you realize and admit you are wrong, the door to change is opened.”
The more I research and become older, the more I have learned to doubt everything, especially things I believe are “for sure” right.
“It is important to doubt anything that has become a fixed idea because by investigating my doubt, I discover. Discovering is where growth is nurtured.”
MIND STORIES
“When your mind believes you are right, it narrows.”
The more I research and the older I become, the more I realize our minds are unreliable narrators.
I do my best to live in the present time. One of the most important actions I teach my clients is to also live in their present time. Because
"our pasts are fictional and our futures nonexistent."
They go, huh?
For example, I love to tell stories. I am fortunate to be best friends today with my best friends of yesterday. I belong to a group of best friends who have known each other since we were pre-teens, fifty-five years of friendship. We get together often.
We will sit around telling tales. I will tell a story from our youth, and one of my friends will say, that’s not what happened. Then he tells it how he remembers it. Then another friend will counter-act my friend's story and say, No, that’s not what happened, this is what happened.
“Our stories evolve.”
We all come up with our own stories, and our stories define who we are.
If our stories define who we are, our minds hold onto our stories because if we don’t, we are not who we think we are. Like losing a limb is difficult, giving up who you are is just as difficult.
People who live a life of always being right will hold on to being right even if you show them solid evidence that they are wrong. They will ignore the evidence and keep believing their story because if they give it up, they are no longer who they think they are.
CERTAINTY VS UNCERTAINTY
“The more you think you know something, the more you eventually realize that you don’t know.”
A very wise man once said,
“The more I know, the more I realize I know nothing.”
Socrates
I doubt my wisdom, but here is my quote on uncertainty.
“The more you embrace uncertainty, the closer you will come to being certain.”
This award-winning writer, popular public speaker, and professor of math at Temple University in Philadelphia says,
“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is…”
John Allen Paulos
This American self-help author and blogger and three times a New York Times bestseller says.
“Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth.”
Mark Manson
I had mentioned in an earlier blog that...
“The key to happiness was having problems because solving problems is where happiness is unearthed. Letting problems lie is where unhappiness breeds.”
So, how do you solve problems?
You must first admit that your actions and beliefs are wrong.
You’ve heard the saying that insanity was doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. That’s what I am saying here. If you are trying to lose weight and you’re not, guess what? Your actions and beliefs are wrong.
I also mentioned in an earlier post that we must know what to value and what not to value. For most of my life, I valued the wrong values.
How did I come to choose the right values? I had to become uncertain and doubt the value of my values.
“My wrong values stuck with me way too long because if I changed my values or discarded a value, that meant I had to change how I defined myself.”
How I define myself is who I am. But who I am is not my best version when I value the wrong values.
This is why the fear of success and the fear of failure are two sides of the same coin.
Fear of success: I may become rich, and that will affect how I define myself.
Fear of failure: I may become poor, and that will affect how I define myself.
“We fear change because it changes the way we define ourselves.”
HOMEWORK
Take a long-standing problem you are having. (Write it down)
What are you currently doing to solve this problem? (Write your actions taken, if any)
If your actions have not solved the problem, you are taking the wrong actions or believing in the wrong beliefs.
Take a different action or develop another belief.
This is the way to becoming a better you.
Now go out and doubt and create the YOU you desire.
❤️ Doc Mac
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